Hand in Hand Community

Free, because support should be – full access for every adult caring for children.

The Hand in Hand Community gives you direct access to Hand in Hand Certified Instructors every single day so you can get direct, personalised support for any behavior you are struggling to manage. 

You’ll get advice on how to use the Hand in Hand Tools specifically in your situation and apply them with thoughtfulness and compassion, in a way that nurtures your relationship with your child.

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Ever doubted your parenting?

Parenting with connection makes so much sense it feels like it should be second-nature...
So why isn't it?

When your child is overwhelmed by their emotions, or you feel yourself losing patience in the middle of yet another sibling disagreement, it can feel like everything is falling apart.  

If you go to sleep determined to do things differently tomorrow and then find yourself yelling 10 minutes after you’ve woken up, don’t lose heart.

The Hand in Hand Community brings you closer to being the parent you want to be by finding support in others, and exploring the ways you can nurture self-regulation, compassion and connection in your family.  No one is perfect so we also have support for repairing after those whoops moments.

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Here's what life can look like

When you use Hand in Hand Parenting Tools consistently and in alignment with your family's needs

Easier Mornings

While we can't promise the fantasy experience of waking up to a calm and harmonious household, where mornings flow beautifully through breakfast and getting out the door, we can share tools that will definitely get you closer and help you tailor them to your specific family needs. The Hand in Hand Community is where you come to fill up your parenting toolbox as well as your own capacity to use the tools.

Emotional Wellbeing

Tantrums and meltdowns aren’t mistakes to erase, they’re vital ways children release tension and recover their balance. With support, those outbursts may ease in frequency and intensity over time. Together, we look at what sparks those explosions, while tending to the needs that lie underneath. Step by step, you and your child can find connected ways to express feelings, work through them, and move forward with more ease.

Smoother Transitions

Learn tried and true practices to better understand and even get ahead of transition friction and resistance in situations such as leaving the park or ending playtime and getting out the door. These can happen more seamlessly because you infuse connection and laughter and listening into the transition. Many parents find that daily routines are so much smoother with their deeper understanding of their child's connection needs and they feel more supported in meeting those needs with these tools and the support they find in the Hand in Hand Community.

Deep Connection

By resolving power struggles and tantrums in a supportive and empathetic way, you build a foundation of trust and connection that will grow over the course of this lifelong relationship. Because you customize these tools for your unique family needs, they grow and adapt with you. The support you find in the Hand in Hand Community supports that tailoring process.

What's Inside the Hand in Hand Community?

Expert Guidance

Our Certified Instructors provide daily coaching with individualized support and action steps for whatever challenge you are facing.

2 x Weekly Live Calls

Weekly Support Call so you get Listening Time. Weekly "Ask Me Anything" live call, a place to bring your questions and get answers from Certified Instructors.

Resource Library

Includes printouts and readings on 20 subjects ranging from play ideas, help for aggression, sibling rivalry and parent anger.

Affinity Chat Groups

Dedicated chats for parents and caregivers with shared experiences to connect, relate, and support one another (coming soon).

What Others Say...

Parents Feel Welcomed & Accepted

"Just want to thank you for the incredibly respectful way you have interacted with me and for all the information and resources you have shared. I'm really happy to have found a place where I feel welcomed and accepted."
"I just realized that this weekend we have had so many good moments. We've shared meals together easily, we've been out and about in our community, in the fresh air. It's all paying off - here we are starting a new week feeling connected and attuned."
"Amazed about the breakthrough I had with my 4-year-old and her medication. She's been refusing to take it but I remembered Patty's experience and tried to do the same, quietly bringing the limit. Today she took it no problem! This works!

Imagine how good it would feel if you had

Access to Support
Whenever You Need...

In the Hand in Hand Community, you’ll have round-the-clock access to Certified Instructors, live weekly Zoom calls, access to a library of resources, and a caring circle of parents and caregivers, so you don’t have to face the hard moments alone. With this support, caring for children can start to feel lighter, more connected, and a lot more possible. Little by little, with steady support, you may notice shifts like:

  • Fewer struggles over routines and transitions.
  • Bedtimes that end with more calm (and more rest for everyone).
  • Siblings' play that flows with less conflict and more laughter.
  • A deeper sense of connection with your child and more clarity about what they’re showing you.
  • More confidence to hold boundaries that reflect your family’s values.
  • Pride in the small, everyday wins that add up to a family life that feels good.
  • Moments of tension that once spiraled now resolve more quickly, with less stress for everyone.
  • A stronger sense of resilience because you know where to turn when challenges come up, and you don’t feel so alone in facing them.
  • You nurture and guide your child, without losing sight of your own needs and wellbeing.

With this in place, caring for children can feel

a little lighter and more connected.

Join the Hand in Hand Community

It's Free, Because It Should Be

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Plus some extra bits:

When you join the Hand in Hand Community, you also get these bonuses to help you get the most out of the Hand in Hand approach.

Bonus

Hand in Hand's Learn 5 Tools

New to Hand in Hand or just need a refresh? Get a complete explanation of each Hand in Hand Listening Tool in this Learn 5 Tools mini-course. You’ll find instructions on how to use each Tool, and how to tweak them for different situations. Return to this course again and again whenever you need inspiration or guidance.

Bonus

Find a Listening Partner

Inside the Hand in Hand Community, you’ll find people who understand the ups and downs of caring for children. It’s a dedicated space where you can reach out, post, and connect with a Listening Partner – someone to exchange Listening Time with when you need support and when you’re ready to offer it. If finding a Listening Partner is what brought you here, joining the Community is the first step.

Come on in, it's FREE!

Sign up for free access

OnHand in Hand Community is free for every caregiver, and always will be. It’s kept going by people who chip in when they can. Once you sign up, if you’re in a position to help, you’ll have the option to contribute – it’s completely optional, and your access will forever remain free.

Got Questions?

Great! Here are the answers

I've been following Hand in Hand for a while now. What does the Hand in Hand Community offer that I can't find on your website?

We're so happy you found us, and you are committed to this way of parenting. We started the membership because many, many parents told us they loved the idea of Hand in Hand but struggled to implement it consistently. With the Hand in Hand Community you get fast feedback on any question you have about parenting, and specific help from dedicated Instructors.

We don't know another membership where you will get so much personal attention, and we welcome it!

I'd love to join, but free almost feels too good to be true. Is there really no cost?

Yes, it's genuinely free, with no catch and nothing hidden. Hand in Hand exists to support every adult caring for children, and we believe that support shouldn't depend on what one can afford. So there are no paywalls, no tiers, and no barriers: you get full access to the Community, the live calls, the resource library, and our Certified Instructors, at no cost. You won't be asked for a credit card to join, and you won't be charged later.

The Community is kept going with the help of those who are able to chip in, so if you're ever in a position to support it, we'd be truly grateful. But that's entirely optional, and it will never change your access.

We look forward to welcoming you in the Community.

Is this for beginners? I only just discovered Hand in Hand.

Welcome to Hand in Hand!

The Hand in Hand Community gives you such a great framework for bringing these Tools to your family fast and efficiently.

Run through the Hand in Hand Basics self-paced module, to get a really thorough introduction to the Tools.

As you implement each, we're sure you'll have questions, and we'll be right here ready to answer, share action steps and strategies you can use.

With this support in place you'll see big leaps in your child's behaviors and how you respond to them, so that caring for children doesn't feel as hard or as lonely, but actually feels hopeful and fun.

How can I make the best use of my time in the Hand in Hand Community?

We made this Community to offer education, personalised guidance and support, and there are a few ways you can spend your time.

If you have an immediate challenge you want to work on, ask an Instructor what resources they recommend, and ask them for their best advice.

If you are feeling isolated, please get involved in the group calls, visit the Listening Time Connections space, and join our weekly Zoom calls.

If your time is very limited, or you are just exhausted right now, we suggest showing up when you have questions or to vent in the vent space. You do not have to be everywhere and do everything. Take what you need!

If you are keen to jump in with both feet and want to max out your time with us, you could allow a few hours each week. You'll be able to explore the Resource Library, join us for live calls, drop into the live feed to share or get support, get focused on a monthly topic, and get Listening Time with another parent.

Your journey is up to you – with zero judgment from us.

And remember, we have Instructors online all the time, so just ask us if you could use a little direction.

I'm not a parent, but I take care of kids. Can I still join?

Absolutely! The ideas that form the Hand in Hand approach are trauma-responsive, supportive and shown to break negative generational patterns – and they work for everyone.

Teachers, therapists and grandparents are big fans of Hand in Hand, and very welcome in our Community.

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