Practical Tools to Help You Understand What’s Happening Beneath the Behavior – and Know What To Do Next
When your child hits, bites, kicks, screams, or lashes out, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
You might find yourself thinking:
“What am I supposed to do right now?”
“How do I keep everyone safe?”
“Am I helping my child… or making things worse?”
You love your child. You want to understand them. You want to respond in a way that feels good and protects your relationship.
But in those intense moments, knowing why your child is struggling doesn’t always make it easier to know what to do.
This 3-week self-guided online course gives you practical Hand in Hand Tools to help you respond with confidence, set loving limits, and support your child through big feelings.
No blame. No shame. Just a different way of understanding what’s happening and the Tools to help.
You’ve learned that behavior is communication.
You’ve learned that connection matters.
You’ve learned that children do well when they can.
And you’ve been trying. Really trying.
But when your child hits a sibling, pushes another child, hurts you, or has a meltdown that feels impossible to stop, those moments can still leave you wondering:
“What do I do now?”
Many parents tell us:
“I thought I would just know how to parent.”
“I read the books. I understand the ideas. But when it actually happens, I freeze.”
“I don’t want to repeat the patterns I grew up with.”
“I want to help my child without losing myself in the process.”
If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone.
For more than 35 years, Hand in Hand has helped parents understand what is really happening beneath challenging behavior – and discover practical ways to respond that strengthen connection instead of damaging it.
Aggressive behavior isn’t just something to stop.
It’s something to understand.
When children hit, bite, kick, scream, or lash out, they are often communicating something they don’t yet have the tools to express another way.
They may be overwhelmed. They may be struggling with strong emotions. They may need help feeling safe, connected, and understood.
Understanding this doesn’t mean allowing hurtful behavior. It means you can respond with both: compassion and confidence. You can help your child through their big feelings while also keeping everyone safe and setting clear limits.
This course will help you
Learn why children sometimes hit, kick, bite, or lash out — and what those behaviors may be communicating.
Instead of freezing, reacting from frustration, or second-guessing yourself afterward, you’ll have practical Tools you can turn to when emotions are running high.
Learn how to stop hurtful behavior safely and firmly while still showing your child they are loved and understood.
Discover ways to build warmth, play, and connection so difficult moments happen less often over time.
Inside this 3-week self-guided course, you’ll learn:
Imagine the next time your child hits…
Instead of freezing. Instead of wondering if you made things worse. Instead of falling back on reactions you don’t feel good about. You know what to do. You know how to keep everyone safe. You know how to support your child. And you know how to protect the connection you care so much about.
That is the confidence these Tools are designed to give you.
Watch Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand, on why understanding your child’s behavior is the first step toward responding with confidence.
Everything inside the course
- 🎥 15 instructional videos ($79 value): Learn Hand in Hand’s practical approach to understanding aggression, responding in the moment, and building connection.
- 📘 9 “Listening to Children” e-booklets ($29 value)
- 🌱 Lifetime access: Learn when it works for your family, revisit the lessons whenever a new challenge comes up, and build a parenting toolkit you can rely on.
$54.99
After taking this course, parents often notice:
★★★★★I was so sad when my kids were not getting along and my oldest was hitting and biting, particularly because I had read so many books and was from the beginning practicing attachment parenting and positive discipline. After my first try using what I learned in this class they played together. I mean, really, they played together. They had never done that. That was the beginning of an amazing shift in their relationship and in my relationship with my daughter.
— Mom of two, Texas
★★★★★In just a few weeks, we have noticed an incredible shift in our whole family dynamic. Thank you for giving me the idea and permission to play with my son in silly ways. It felt so good to know it is okay to play with my kids! We were both happy and that connected feeling carried over to him helping cook dinner, share with his baby sister, and go to sleep easily. Really amazing stuff!
— Mother of two, Portland, OR
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
You don’t need to become a perfect parent and you don’t need to stop every difficult moment from happening.
You need understanding. You need support. And you need Tools you can trust when parenting feels hardest.
This 3-week course gives you a practical path forward – so you can respond with confidence and stay connected through the moments that matter most.
